Have you ever been mad at yourself for snapping at your partner, because you were having the worst day ever: a lousy day at work, the car broke down again, and kids might have strep throat? You create a deep “so what” attitude, feeling out of control and respond in a negative way. Dr. Marshall Goldsmith’s book “Triggers” helps us find ways to deal with the daily “paper cuts” of life (page 60). These little sharp incidents can make us feel depleted and drained by life.
As an executive coach and professor of Organizational Development, Dr. Goldsmith has developed questions and structures to respond to the little things in life that may not bring out our best self. The book is filled with stories of wisdom from past clients that he has worked with. The stories are relatable about behaviors and attitudes that we have in common and may hinder us in life. The lesson is simple; don’t be afraid of change.
One of the bits of wisdom that struck me the most was asking for help. I think it’s hard to ask for help, but Dr. Goldsmith shares insights into the power of not trying solve things by yourself. It is a sign of strength and not weakness when someone asks for help (page 102). If you have the courage to do an honest appraisal of a situation that triggers negative response, then you may realize that you can’t achieve your goals without a little help.
Why would I recommend this book to someone? There will come a time that we need to examine our lives and I believe Dr. Goldsmith’s book would be a good tool to use for that examination. It is a tough book to read if you are looking for a quick fix. It is a book that makes you stop and think about what you want in life. What type of person do you want to be known as? Dr. Goldsmith reminds that we need to take care of ourselves, so we can take care of what matters most, the relationships that we have been entrusted with.
Read well my Friends!